Postponing pregnancy is indeed fully the rights of every married couple. But should also be considered carefully before doing so, why? Many young couples who want to delay the first to have you. The presence of between 2 factors:

1. Psychological Readiness
Readiness and psychological health is very important for couples who want to have offspring. This is necessary because the husband and wife have a heavy responsibility to get through the role as a parent. Egoism self not to make an excuse for postponing pregnancy, “It should be based on reason and responsibility. In particular, mothers do for their health, both mental and psychological, and children.

2. Physical Readiness
In addition to the psychological readiness, physical readiness is absolutely owned by women planning a pregnancy. From the health side, as long as the spouse does not have a disease that requires treatment in the long term, Anita did not see any reason that requires couples to postpone pregnancy. Pregnancy should be delayed if there is a disease that experienced husband or wife, which could jeopardize the condition of the fetus or mother if the pregnancy carried out.

By considering the age factor is the conditions that must be taken into account when delaying pregnancy are:

1. Age women
The most appropriate age for pregnancy is 20-35. If more than 35 years, the risk of pregnancy and birth would be higher.

2. Health conditions
If there are health problems and age is still possible to be delayed, it’s good body condition prior of healthy.

3. Heredity
If the husband and wife come from small families are equally difficult to have children, should not delay the pregnancy.

Therefore there is a safe and easy way to postpone pregnancy including Periodic abstinence, this is a way of delaying pregnancy is the healthiest because they do not change the hormonal status of the woman. The weakness of this method is the “penetration”, especially those who are not menstruating regularly. With using Condoms for couples who risk “conceded” his big, condoms are an appropriate means. With Hormonal contraception it will consult with your obstetrician, hormonal family planning methods are most appropriate to your medical condition.

Generally, each person will be excited when the expectant baby, Moreover if the presence of Little-awaited father, mother, and a large family Eager to imagine it was a tiny baby in her arms. However, sometimes a first birth is considered beautiful, could be a boomerang for new mothers. Some women could have had a name postpartum baby blues. If still not subsided in a week, could develop into a more permanent disruption, or called post natal depression.

Besides dangerous for the newborn, also can cut and harmonious bond between mother and child. In fact, in some cases can also cause the mother’s desire to commit suicide. Wow, scary, huh? So many factors that contributed to make these two cases appear after birth underlined it is necessary that the mental preparation for expectant mothers in the face of his new role.

For that, Josephine suggested, for prospective mothers to understand the meaning of pregnancy and prepare themselves for seeking new role. There is some feeling of depression is often experienced by women after childbirth among them are:

1. Understand Positive Pregnancy

For some people, probably not too surprised to see the facts, you’re pregnant. However not always the case in some women Pregnancy lived, could be something surprising, even developing a similar scared. This problem can also occur in the process before and after childbirth. The process is actually a door of happiness this couple it turned into a disastrous start for the new mother. Need to be reminded that the prospective parents can understand the meaning of pregnancy and develop positive thoughts about the pregnancy well before delivery occurs, To be able to think positively about the pregnancy, can be instilled in the mind, pregnancy is a God-given gift. Pregnancy is a coveted thing many women, is also amazing experience that will complement the role of women. Pregnancy is also a mix of hope and the fact that a mystery God.

Make the moment of physical changes and signs of pregnancy as a wonderful experience that will bear fruit of happiness. Feel the changes in the stomach at every opportunity. Think also, within the growing human figure entrusted by God to be guided into a useful human being in the future. Add to this by reading several books pregnancy, which can provide more understanding about what was happening to you and the fetus. Not only makes you more prepared to go through all the processes and symptoms of pregnancy, but also enhance self-esteem, without making the sign of pregnancy.

2. Blues Baby Syndrome

What does it mean birth process which lasted about a few hours? Who would have thought, a process that has traveled millions of women before this, was another perceived by some women? There was a strange feeling and discomfort that infiltrate the heart of this new status. Having a baby eventually makes the confused, anxious, not knowing what to do when the baby cries inconsolably at night. Not yet felt upset when the milk never came out. Feeling alone after little, unsure of himself as a husband out of the house for a living, noisy in-law caring for a baby because the force that did not match, and ultimately his own crying and sad. Everything felt wrong and not right, angry with all the chaos that is felt after giving birth.

No more attention was given the people around. Everything turned into a burden. New status as a mother, feels like a jail sentence. If you have this, you may experience the baby blues. Feeling frustrated due to unpreparedness themselves accepting a new role as a parent. Syndrome baby blues can happen in about 80 percent of postpartum women. It usually occurs 3 to 5 days after birth and lasts for 7 to 10 days. This case also donated by the hormonal changes that occur after childbirth dramatically. These hormonal changes increase the anxiety and sensitivity of the mother New mothers also were seized with anxiety, worry, irritability, depression, and was unable to. If triggered other problems such as noisy with their husbands or in-laws, or make mistakes when taking care of the baby, he will cause excessive grief.

3. Post Natal Depression

If the baby blues is happening prolonged by more than 10 days, can develop into mental disorders more serious such as post natal depression (PND), this condition can descend 10 percent of postpartum women. PND can make an infected to panic, easy to despair, obsessive, have excessive guilt, and often plagued thoughts out of control. Symptoms similar but more severe, as shown when you experience the baby blues. However, according to Josephine, there are some characters that make the baby blues and PND looks different. Symptoms are shown in the PND is not only psychic, but also began to affect the physical. PND is often accompanied by feelings of fatigue, decreased sexual desire, difficulty sleeping, and feeling tense.

If you have so, improve the quality of husband-wife communication and regular counseling alone will not be able to end these conditions. Psychotherapy treatment is usually performed as well as digging into the root of existing problems in the mother’s mind. The counselor will usually advise the husband to raise the threshold of tolerance, so that his wife had the opportunity to adapt to his new role and the rhythm of life. The husband was also advised to not aggravate depression wife, through the obligations which by the wife of a burden as demands for sexual intercourse can be returned, or the burden of excessive household.

More and more pregnant women in big cities nowadays tend to ask for the birth of Caesar. The reason, for faster delivery and not feel pain. Really Caesar’s birth is a birth process that is not the way, such as by cutting the lower abdomen to the uterus. Meanwhile, God had to make way for the birth of the womb, through the cervix and vagina.

Everything that normally would be better, Factors that cause babies to be born in a Caesar is due to his mother, including her illness, factors that affected the birth canal (there is a tumor or a narrow pelvis), and the baby factor, whether transverse or too large (Makrosemia).

Can a woman who has no problem with selecting the birth of Caesar’s pregnancy? If test results show very good condition, your doctor will suggest a normal delivery. The patient and her husband decided. The impact of postpartum women Caesar is Caesar’s Recovery from surgery takes longer than normal delivery. Can also experience bleeding and infection due to cuts. If Caesar had settled the cause (due to narrow pelvis), the distance is more than a year pregnant and there is no interference or problems to the mother and fetus is also scar he could be planning a vaginal birth.

Differences from the psychological effects for mother and babies are born normally and Caesar is the woman who gave birth to normal wear and can directly feed their babies exclusively breastfed so that mother and child relationship becomes closer. While a Caesarean delivery, must wait for conditions to recover once (about 6-8 hours after surgery).